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To Forgive is to Heal
You don’t forgive, for anyone else, you forgive for yourself.
Forgiveness is releasing and letting go of what you had been holding onto in your head on something someone has done.
Let’s say someone insults you in a moment, he or she will have performed that action at that moment but you will hold onto it and replay that in your head again and again, thereby, creating the same emotions repeatedly. The other person did what he/she had to do once, but we end up replaying that event in our minds to relive those moments. Such is the mind! Let us be more present to it and not fall for it. Forgiveness is letting go and releasing that from your head. It has nothing to do with the other person actually, it has all to do with you!
At times people believe, forgiveness comes across as permissiveness, which will in a way permit the other to continue in their ways. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you become a pushover. You can be assertive and communicate what you need to. It also doesn’t mean you should go ahead and get people back into your lives. It simply means you are not holding on to what they have done, in your head. You are at peace with whatever happened. It is a sign of strength
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
– Mahatma Gandhi
